Today I’m sharing a bonus workbook to accompany Tuesday’s blog post, Relational Trauma: The Possible Effects of Loving an Addict. This workbook is designed to help you identify patterns of hypervigilance, process the emotions that can come up when setting boundaries, and explore wellness exercises to support your healing.

This workbook pairs with my blog post "H.E.A.L Check-in Conversation; Communicate in a Healthy Way." Recovery and healing can be challenging to navigate as a couple. Miscommunication, unspoken expectations, and emotional triggers can create distance instead of connection. That’s why intentional check-ins are key.

The H.E.A.L Check-In provides a structured yet flexible way to foster honest, open, and judgment-free conversations. Use this guide to strengthen trust, deepen intimacy, and create a healthier foundation for your relationship.

Ah, communication. That magical word that’s supposed to fix everything. Yet, somehow, it’s the very thing that makes us want to tear our hair out when we’re arguing about who left the wet towel on the floor… again. Add recovery from addiction into the mix, and suddenly that wet towel represents everything wrong in the universe. Good times, right?

This bonus workbook complements Tuesday’s post on how to manage triggers when you’re feeling angry. It has easy-to-use exercise and optional deeper dive exercises for those that want to take a look at self-doubt and obstacles.

Anger is one of those emotions that can hit like a freight train. It can barrel towards you fast and overwhelmingly. For those in addiction recovery—and for the people who love them—anger can be more than just a bad mood. It can be a trigger, a dangerous pull toward old coping mechanisms that promise relief but come with a cost.

What do you do when anger flares up? How do you keep it from dragging you down a path you’ve worked so hard to leave behind? That’s what we’re talking about today: real, practical ways to manage anger and its triggers, whether you're in recovery or supporting someone who is.

So, you’ve been through the wringer—relational trauma, betrayal, addiction, and the emotional equivalent of walking barefoot on broken glass while swallowing fire. Healing isn’t just a straight path; it’s a zigzag of breakthroughs, setbacks, and the occasional “WHAT THE F IS HAPPENING?” moment.

Let’s walk through the key healing tasks—minus the sugarcoating but with a bit of humor to keep us sane. This is the first in the series.

And no, I’m not done with my addiction trigger series, I just wanted to break things up a bit since I’ve been on both side of the addiction coin: the addict and the loved one of an addict.

As you work on establishing healthy boundaries in your relationship, it’s important to reflect on your emotional needs and set limits that protect your mental health. I created this workbook to help partner’s navigate the challenging world of boundaries in your relationship with partner.

Today, we continue our conversation about betrayal trauma. The first post was published on Monday. This trauma may stem from dishonesty, infidelity, or breaches of trust, whether emotional, psychological, or even physical. If you've experienced these, my heart goes out to you. I want you to know that healing is possible, and there are different approaches to guide you on your journey